- picked out a couch (the Rowley, for those of you who were held in suspense this whole time)
- moved into the new place (an experience that, despite going as well as it could possibly have gone, and as quickly, and as smoothly, was so painful I've decided that unless we are leaving New York City, I am going to die in this apartment - that is how little I want to move every again. Or at least for the next two years.)
- spent a long time painfully setting things up with no table, no couch, and no internet
- purchased a huge amount of "necessary" stuff for the apartment, like fancy blinds, fancy dishes, and not so fancy frying pans. (Newly necessary item: a black/silver microwave to replace the one I broke a few days ago.)
- got into our first "living together" fight
- got over our first "living together" fight
- realized we had flies in our apartment because there were no screens in the windows and they were coming in from the scaffolding outside our apartment, moments before realizing there were flies on the scaffolding because our neighbors throw their food and trash onto it
- survived a hurricane, family reunion, and wedding in our first month of living together
- opened our first joint bank account
- started school (which is just wonderful. More on that in the coming days, undoubtedly)
- got Roger a job (well, that was mostly Roger's doing. But I helped by asking useful questions like, "What's the salary?" and "How much does it pay?" Repeatedly.)
- helped Shelby pick out a wedding dress (well, this was mostly me. But Roger did a kick-ass job at arranging pastries for us to eat afterward.)
- eventually got the couches after much wringing of hands, and filled their wonderful drawers with knitting supplies, DVDs, and Roger's papers.
- instituted a date night and started writing Yelp reviews of every restaurant we go to
- and finally, oh, finally, got the internet yesterday, along with our first electricity bill. We truly are real people now.
Not me. I'm having more difficulty finishing the apartment than I thought I would. (We're so close, but we need to print and frame a few more photographs and buy one more big print for the bedroom and get one more bookshelf so we can put away our last box of books. Oh, my. So many books. And also, we might still paint. We decided against it, and we have tons of stuff on the walls, but it still feels really barren to me.) I'm adjusting really well to city life, better than I thought I would, and I'm resisting the feeling of "I am wasting my time if I'm not doing everything all at once!!!" But, I've mostly stopped running, haven't been to the farmer's market yet, and my writing feels really strange to me right now. I'm still trying to get myself on a schedule that includes everything I love, and also lets me sleep for a few hours a night.
And what I was really hoping was that a week into moving in, I'd have all sorts of lovely pictures to show you of our lovely place with our lovely furniture and our lovely selves. But, what I had instead was one sweaty couple, eating cereal out of mugs on the floor with nothing hung on the walls. So, I thought, okay, two weeks. Which turned to five, and which still isn't really done. I've been hesitant to post any pictures, to have anyone visit, because it still feels like a work in progress. The sort of work in progress that I am right now, where I'm reading a lot of poetry and thinking a lot about my work and my positionality, and also not really doing the dishes or wearing anything but the same pair of jeans. But, guys, you're going to get pictures soon, and they aren't going to be perfect. And that's okay. Because I'm not perfect either, and I think you're all okay with that.
Plus, if there's one thing we do have, that's perfectly lovely bookshelves. And who doesn't like a good bookshelf picture?
Oh, guys. I missed you. Now, since you're all totally brilliant: any suggestions for affordable black or silver microwaves? And more importantly, for a nice, sort of artsy print to put between the two windows in our bedroom? The space on the wall is about 3' wide by 4' tall, and we'd want to put a frame around it.